It's a topic that's been debated by scientists, therapists and divorce attorneys alike. There have been legitimate studies dedicated to getting to the bottom of this issue, all for the sake of men's egos everywhere.
In a 2014 poll, a promising 84% of ladies reported they were more than satisfied with their man's member. Well, that's hard to say, especially since “all men and women have a different perspective on how much matters and what the proper size constitutes,” says Jenny Skyler, a certified sex therapist, sexologist, and licensed marriage and family therapist for AdamEve.com.
But even with statistics, Skyler points out that “some men and their partners fit together well and some don’t.” “Some women find a smaller fit feels great, but larger men are uncomfortable,” she notes.
“Others find that smaller men just don’t fill them up, and they really enjoy the larger size. For the most part, men who are in the average range will do just fine.
Size does matter when it comes to having an orgasm through intercourse, and length is less important than girth. My personal preference would be 9 to 10 inches and thick enough that I can’t quite close my hand around it.
This size affords me the ability to have vaginal orgasms in multiple positions and isn’t so large that fellatio is a challenge.”2. “In my humble opinion, somewhere within the broad range of average size is best.
They attempt, often successfully, to compensate with technique, and as a result they are stellar lovers.”3. “ I do keel exercises on a daily basis, so the size feels good to me no matter what.
The important thing for my enjoyment is more what they do with their hands and mouth, rather than the penis being the only sexual effort!”6. At the same time, you don't want someone too small that you can barely feel or enjoy.
I dated a guy with a penis the size of my pinky, and sometimes I wasn't even sure if we were having sex. You don't need to have a porn star shlong, but if I can't tell whether you're in me, I mean, that's a problem.”12.
One time, a short dude I was hooking up with stopped me in the middle of things to warn me that he had a huge dick, and to speak up if he was hurting me. It made me rethink the benefits of the good ole' average- size penis.”13.
Honestly, you could have the biggest, nicest, health class textbook-looking penis. That's the worst, the guys who are really big, so they think that they can just treat women however they want to, since they can get laid whenever they want to.”14.
At first, I thought this was great since I was getting all the foreplay without having to give back. “I think that every woman has at least a little of anxiety when she's dating a guy that she's really into, and she's about to see his dick for the first time.
But I think any woman that you ask would also admit that she doesn't want to be stuck in a relationship with a guy whose dick is weird-looking or super tiny for the rest of her life. So the next time you're about to drop your pants and show your dick to a new lady, know that we're just as anxious as you are, boys.”16.
If you'd like to join in, it's really easy to register, and then you'll be able to post. Now, last night I was quite bored so decided to measure up as I don't know what my *ahem* size is (and most guys here do).
I'm average (6" length 4.5" girth) but have read on other internet sites and forums that I'm actually tiny and that the best size for a woman is 7" length and 5" and above girth. Whether penis size really matters has long been argued among men, women, experts, and researchers.
We’re talking the ultimate game of Would You Rather: Would you rather have a short, chubby penis or a long pencil dick? Typically, when we talk about penis size, we tend to focus on length rather than thickness.
And this is actually unfair to guys, says Ariella×, 35, who points out that girth and length provide “two different but equally valuable feelings in the vaginal area. As it turns out, the old saying is pretty much true: it’s not the size of the boat that matters, but the motion of the ocean.
Other studies have yielded similar results, with one UCLA and Cal State LA report finding that 84% of women are totally happy with their partners' size. Ultimately, “the girth and length of a penis are less important than the man's ability to listen to what feels good for his partner.
Girth and size don't matter if you aren't spending time on foreplay and warming her up,” says Dr. Kristie Over street, a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist. Put another way, if you have a gargantuan penis, and you're flailing it around like Godzilla unchained instead of paying attention to your partner's needs, she's not going to be impressed.
The results of our poll aside, at the end of the day the length vs. girth question largely comes down to personal preference. At the end of the day, if you don’t know how to give her an orgasm (and especially if you don't even bother trying), the size of your member means next to nothing.
“Remember that satisfying sex has less to do with penis size, and way more to do with everything surrounding actually penetration,” Morse says. Gigi Angle is a certified sex coach, educator, and writer living in Chicago.
This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page to help users provide their email addresses. DH got me a jumbo dildo and frankly it did not go in, even with lube.
I think I am too narrow, and a huge cock could injure me. After three kids of my own, as long as I'm wet, DH starts with three fingers, and before I know it he's using four.
According to a recent study, women prefer girth to length when it comes to the size of a man they'd have a one-night stand with. In the experiment, 41 women were asked to examine 3-D printed blue models of penises (Scientific Term: High Tech Smurf Junk), which ranged in size for both girth and length.
Here are some things that are way more likely to make you decide to have a one-night stand than an around-his-business measurement: An insanely good kisser, incredible chemistry, the length of time since your last sexual encounter, an ill-advised desire to get “revenge” on your ex (not recommended). The point is, you might not be in love with a guy you hook up with for one night, but I seriously doubt you're making that decision based on a body part you can't even see in public.
Penis size does not, in general, play a huge role in women’s sexual pleasure. By contrast, only about half of the heterosexual men surveyed in this same study were satisfied with the size of their own penis.
This just goes to show that a lot of penis- size dissatisfaction, whether centered on girth, length, or both, is not necessarily rooted in sexual satisfaction or in a penis size that’s outside the normal range (since most penises, as it turns out, are normal). If you do have an tiny penis girth, a therapist can help you to process any feelings you have about this.
No matter your girth, a therapist can help you improve your own relationship with your penis, your body, and your sexuality more generally. They can also give you strategies for navigating uncomfortable or potentially negative situations in sex and dating.
Avoiding excessive alcohol and cigarette consumption can also help you to have more reliable erections. However, even among the few procedures and implements that show long-term results, they tend to only increase length and have a pretty negligible effect on girth.
Unfortunately, in this procedure, the fat often settles unevenly, leaving you with a lumpy penis. Healthy lifestyle choices will help you maintain harder erections, which feel bigger.